Our society is obsessed with go-getting, an activity that has people constantly working for, searching after and worrying about the next client, the next dollar. I've done it myself: "How do I get people to come to my workshops?"
Why would anyone want to come to a workshop when it's defined by that that kind of attitude? It's desperate. I've GOT to make it happen. By pushing, I'm setting up all sorts of walls for people to resist. And of course, I didn't want to be shamelessly promoting myself, so there's another wall. Did I like what I had to offer, or didn't I?
My coach said to me one day, after I had spent several minutes moaning about how no one was signing up for my latest workshop, "Have you heard of go-giving?" What? What's that?
Go-giving - the process of opening one's heart to one's gifts and to the world. When I open my heart, in a spirit of giving the gifts I possess to someone else, miracles happen. Since considering and attempting to live from a go-giving mentality, I've had more conversations and more interest in the Equine Gestalt Coaching framework than I've had since I began my certification. The energy is soft, approachable, and open to helping an individual rather than getting their money.
When one go-gives, one can also be an exhuberant proponent of the gift being offered. That movie, "Field of Dreams", said it so well: "If you build it, they will come." Built with love, enjoyed without reservation, and shared with anyone who wishes it.
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